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♥ Monday, August 14, 2006
7:39 PM

More and more wedding bells.

Wow. More than anyone can image. I have onhand 3 confirmed wedding dates from our friends. When we went for Baby's ex-classmate's birthday celebration; it's outbursting! Another 3 red bombs. That's total of 6! And I believe more to come. And it's only mid month of Aug 06.

We told my dad on our actual wedding date. Well, he just kept quiet and continue with dinner.

My mum told my uncles and aunties on our wedding day (Seems way early). I think they are more demanding than my mom. Asking for roast pig, and this and that. And they told her a hi-tea/lunch buffet cost slightly lesser than wedding dinner. May as well take the dinner. I am so pissed off. I told her she is my mother, they are just relatives. How can she just listen to what they say? Afterall, we are forking out the money for all these from our own pocket.

What's fuming is asking us whether we have chosen an auspicious date and whether it falls within the Qingming period? Why dont we postpone it to lunar month of April?? Mad mad.. Blood boiling. I told her I am sure it falls in the 2nd lunar month and dont crashes with Qingming? We did our research in many aspects. We already booked the photographer, MUA and confirming others. And why month of April? I really felt the water boiling in my head. I told her I respect her as my mum and told her that we have made up our mind earlier. If there is objection, she should raise it from the start. His grandmother and my grandpa stretching her/his neck for this day, what heart attack to change the date! Grgghhh..

I went to check it out and CONFIRMED:
1) Our actual day is 6th of 2nd lunar month
2) It's more 10 days before Qingming

There might be better dates but we would definitely not pushing it forward or backwards. It's not that I dont respect my mum. But it's just a mixture feeling. Maybe who gone thru the same situation would understand my position.

In the end, I told her we will follow and respect her like dowry discussion, tea ceremony. But please dont listen to whatever people say. Example: I am a teochew, his dad is a cantonese and mum is a hokkien. Whose customary should we follow? If I am a teochew, we dont practice getting the roast pig. Am I suppose to get married before dawn? But I dont get to see any of my cousins doing all these. Those hearsay is making me so furious. If it continues, we may just listen to my relatives and let them decide and let me be their daughter! Really spoilt my mood!